Happy March! The theme this month is Luck; thank you to the folks of Ireland for your St. Patrick’s Day inspiration, slightly less gratitude for novel but very unhealthy alcohol with artificial colour, so much fun, but not at all conducive to health. And now for what you all came for: getting lucky 😉
I hate to break it to you but luck isn’t as much about little men in stockings, shamrocks, rainbows and pots of gold as you’d hoped. In fact if it was, there would be far more men donning striped stockings and green culottes in our day-to-day lives I believe.
The 1st step to being lucky is actually personal responsibility. And now you see why luck seems so out of reach for most. We are the biggest saboteurs of our own fortune. We are always ready to point a finger at someone (or something) else or make an excuse as to why our behaviour that totally fails to serve us was acceptable under the circumstances. How can you be lucky when you don’t even prepare yourself for luck to come in and graciously assist? If you aren’t at least on your way to partial success, at what point do you think luck is going to jump in and say “hey, I know you’re not even willing to put in a half-hearted effort, in fact I’m pretty much psychic and just know what you want because really your actions barely indicate what you say you want at all, but that’s okay, I’ll just fix all that up for you.”? When you’re ready to own all that you do to make or break yourself you’ll be far more on your way to getting really lucky.
Most of the time luck isn’t nearly as random as you might think. Most of the time the luck as we know it actually comes from some action already being taken in the right direction and then “luck” comes along, but if it was just a thought in your head and you were in fact doing nothing (or worse, the opposite of what you needed to be) that luck might not come to you because it wasn’t obvious you were after something seriously. Let’s say you want to lose 40 pounds, and you tell your friend that you’ve started working out a couple times a week and invite them to join you sometime, you’re out to lunch and you choose a grilled-cheese because you’ve been really craving one and this restaurant makes one to die for, but you get greens on the side and soda water. While you’re dining your friend tells you, ”No, you should come workout with me”, their brother-in-law owns a gym and has told your friend to come by anytime with friends for a complimentary class. You go and make an awesome new connection with a couple of the class participants who happen to have a small training group twice a week, and they keep each other accountable the rest of the time. They invite you to join them as one friend just moved way and they’re looking for someone to be a 4th in their group. “Oh my gosh, I’m just so lucky to have randomly met them on this one-time visit , Is what you might say about that series of events, this is true, that’s pretty fortunate. Now, same scenario but you don’t invite your friend to join you for a workout (so who knows if you’re actually doing it) and instead of the salad and soda you get the fries and upgrade to poutine. You seem far less committed, and your friend never mentions their great offer because why waste their time? To them you are clearly all talk and no action.
This is not to say that you don’t really really really want to lose 40 pounds, but that reality is stuck in your mind and the world isn’t seeing it. You have to be responsible for your personal behaviour because while you generally don’t have to seek out luck for it to find you, you do have to take some action to get noticed. Action that speaks to your intention to actually follow through on what you say you want.
Step 1 to luck: No whining, complaining, excuses, justifying or blaming. These usually only serve to console your ego into acting like you aren’t at the helm of your ship. That’s lying to yourself, even if things are “out of control” nobody has more power over your life than you do. So stop it taking a big unlucky dump on your life! It can be challenging and requires responsibility, accountability, and taking action, but it’s a much more rewarding lifestyle, after all it leaves you open to frequent bouts of getting lucky!
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